In Bali for a mastermind retreat.
#1: First and foremost.
YOU HAVE TO LEARN YOUR LESSONS AT EVERY STAGE OF THE GAME.
This is my biggest takeaway from this year. Hands down. Hence the caps.
Let me explain.
Among my new clients this year (p.s. new website coming soon for my agency) I got to bring on New York Times bestselling authors, some very well known entrepreneurs, and acclaimed medical spas and wellness centers. In working so closely with many I admire so much, I learned that biz+life get pretty messy if you don’t fully embrace the lessons at every level of growth and up-leveling.
*Insider’s secret: it’s more about your lessons than it is about the money. Another way to say it: let your growth lead. The coins will follow.*
#2: Play. Relax. Read. Nap. Lie in the sun. Dance. Whatever makes you happy.
As my mentor Nisha Moodley says, her entire business shifted when she started treating her life like a plant and watering it regularly.
Listen, this is important, you get to set up your life, your schedule, your business, your self-care, your routines (please tell me you have routines!), your everything just how you want it. It requires a bit of effort and some foresight, but you really, truly get to do that for yourself.
So, do it.
Lay it out on paper.
Schedule it into your calendar.
And begin living it. It may take some time, heck it may take an entire year, to get it all set, but it will definitely be worth the effort.
#3: Guidance at every step in the journey is critical.
With my mastermind sisters on Maui.
You’ve heard this one and a million ways. I’ll just confirm it’s truth and add this thought: if athletes (amaetur and pro), entertainers, and executives need coaching, so do you. So do I. Plain and simple.
#4: The clearer your vision, the faster you cruise.
If you’ve got a laser clear picture of where you’re headed, it’s much easier to get on the road and cruise towards it. Your lessons become easier to embrace, (“Ahhh yes, okay, I need to master this thing before I’m able to progress to the next stage.”) and your setbacks won’t seem quite as large…in fact, they might just seem like part of the big picture—in fact, they often are.
#5: The best way to get clear is to ask God.
*Prayer is the most direct way to do that.*
::: Very soon, I’ll introduce my first organized 1:1 + group coaching program called I AM READY FOR $100K. It’s the only program I’ll be offering this year. Feel into it. If it calls to you, let me know and stay tuned for the details. I don’t believe in fixing anything. I believe in reminding you of and occasionally leading you into the life you’re already called to live. If it doesn’t call to you now, no worries. But my plea to every entrepreneur and small business owner remains: Get supported. Get mentored. Get surrounded by your angels. It makes all the difference. :::
I’m writing to you during the busiest time of my year, and likely yours as well. However, when something big happens, positive or negative, no matter how busy I find myself, I am compelled to stop, think, document, and share. After all, it’s during these times we learn the most about ourselves, our goals, and how we can grow.
A project crises consumed my entire day yesterday. It contained a fast moving lesson that was way less than fun while buried in the midst of it, yet provided so many lessons on the outset that I will take and apply immediately to improve my company. It was also a nice slice of humility pie and a reminder to be grateful when things are working well.
As entrepreneurs and business owners, we all find ourselves on a twisting winding journey with many highs and many lows. This year, as I’ve scaled my company, I’ve become well acquainted with that road. In order to embrace the full journey of entrepreneurship, you must learn to receive the low points and their accompanying lessons as well as you receive the high points and their accompanying rewards.
And, this year.
What a journey.
I was part of a nine-month mastermind that changed the course of my business.
Monthly revenue to my company has just about tripled.
We’ve gone from a small and extremely talented team of professionals supporting me as the primary worker bee to an organized, full-service agency for the spa, wellness, and beauty industries. As we serve our clients, we’re also undertaking some of our own serious behind-the-scenes rebranding, restructuring, and relaunching (Q1 of next year!) and it’s enough to make anyone’s head spin.
My quietly launched coaching practice has stayed as full as I’ve wanted it to be, and my conversations with my new business friends have run deep.
I’ve spent more time in the sun. I’ve gone vegan. And I’m down on my yoga mat more regularly.
It’s been, in short, a giant year for our little family of two (the hubs and I) + two pups.
And I want to tell you more about it. All about it, actually. For the next several weeks, as I reflect on everything that has happened, I’ll be writing it all out and sharing it with you, too.
The one thing I want to share right now is this: you can’t do it alone.
I’m such a believer in prayer with my Creator (first and foremost), mentorship (I worked with a high-level mentor last year and I’m working with one, specifically for my marketing agency, again this upcoming year), healers (I have my two energy workers on speed dial), self-care resources (shout out to my massage therapists, facialists, and reiki practitioner), and team of angels. This year, next year, and 10 years from now would be impossible without that support.
And having that support has called me into being that support.
Early next year, I’m introducing my first organized 1:1 + group coaching program called I AM READY FOR $100K. Feel into it. If it calls to you, let me know and stay tuned for the details. I don’t believe in fixing anything. I believe in reminding you of and occasionally leading you into the life you’re already called to live. If it doesn’t call to you now, no worries. But my plea to every entrepreneur and small business owner remains: Get supported. Get mentored. Get surrounded by your angels. It makes all the difference.
More soon as I get it all on digital paper, but, for now, may you be happy during this beautiful holiday season.
Ask yourself this:
What is the work that I do in my sleep?
Do you spend time with friends and family?
Visit new places?
Build your future?
I’ve been thinking about this ever since two events:
- In reading Feeling is the Secret by Neville Goddard several months ago, I learned more about sleep than I ever knew. Here’s the top line: Sleep is as important and potentially even more precious than your waking hours when it comes to creating your life. Your life originates from your subconscious, and the primary time for your subconscious to get busy and get to work is when you’re asleep. Your waking hours are for creating everything that your subconscious has already blueprinted out. I’ve since begun to treat sleep as treasured, valuable time (versus an inconvenience) and it’s been incredible to see how much faster and more in sync everything is.
I love these three quotes:
“The waking two-thirds of your life on earth ever corroborates or bears witness to your subconscious impressions. The actions and events of the day are effects; they are not causes. Free will is only freedom of choice.”
“You will rise believing that you are a free agent, not realizing that every action and event of the day is predetermined by your concept of self as you fell asleep. Your only freedom, then, is your freedom of reaction. You are free to choose how you feel and react to the day’s drama, but the drama—the actions, events and circumstances of the day—have already been determined.”
“Sleep is the door into heaven. What you take in as a feeling you bring out as a condition, action, or object in space. So sleep in the feeling of the wish fulfilled.” -Neville Goddard
- My friend Katie and I were chit chatting and she casually mentioned that she happens to do a lot of her work in her sleep.
Her story is incredible: She’s building an amazing community (of which I am now part), for both coaches and those being coached, and is recovering from a tough health situation. Her business has been built almost entirely during limited moments of energy and she has inspired hundreds in the process. PSA: You can do anything that you truly desire.
Katie happened to mention to me that because of her health challenges, she’s had to do a lot of her work while she sleeps—everything from relationship building to business development.
There you have it. My challenge to you, this month, is to get to bed 15 minutes earlier than normal and fall asleep meditating on and feeling what it is you want to create in life. A loving home, amazing relationship, vibrant health, great friends, happy children, good puppy dogs, and abundant career or business are all game here. Then let your subconscious get to work. Try it out for a couple of weeks and see what a difference it makes. Then e-mail me and share your thoughts or reflections on this exercise
I felt hesitant to send this post live because I’m still so early in my learning this myself, but it needs to be shared. I sense that many of you are in this same place.
Let’s talk play and why it matters to your LIFE and your business.
Sister friends, you simply have to live the full range of life. It’s not enough to live in just strength or faith or powering through or busy or even business booming growth.
You have to also live in joy, harmony, vibrancy, sensuality, tenderness, slowness, just the right pace-ness, laughter, and even childlike (or, heck, even sophisticated) play.
*To be fully WOMAN and live in your fullest expression of success, you have to get cozy with the full range of LIFE and ALL it has to offer.*
Let me tell you where I’m writing this from: the woods of West Virginia on a yoga retreat with one of my clients. Earlier today I got to play with the coolest monster-sized bubbles and I’m pining for a ride on the swings as soon as I’m finished with this stream to you. I’m learning.
Play, my new favorite adventure sport, recently revealed itself to me, on my retreat with Nisha & Co., as my next lesson and biggest “edge.” We’ve been making friends with each other ever since. Not the kind of friends that hit it off and realize right away that they’ll be lifelong BFFs, but more the kind that at first admired each other from afar, and “get” each other a little more every time they hang out.
My most common sentiment in this budding relationship: “Huh. You’re not who I thought you were from my first impression…and I’m liking you more and more all the time.”
Here’s the practice that just literally shoved its way into my life the second I landed back home from masterminding in Bali. There was no choice in the matter, and I’ve been growing more and more attached ever since.
1. A morning laugh before work. I can’t seem to get the day started until this happens. Between my husband, pup, and a new joie de vivre lately, this has been remarkably easy.
2. A mid-day play break. Every day. No exceptions.
Holy cow, when this one hit my life it was like a TON OF BRICKS. Ummmm, no, I argued, that will not be happening
Um, yes, came the response, it will.
I mean I felt guuuuil-ty at first. Until, after 45 minute or even a couple hours of play, I went back to my client work with more calmness, creativity, zest, and energy. That’s when I started to see the light. Take note, play is critical to your business.
What do I do during that time?
Well, so far I’ve gone on long, luxurious walks with our pup, baked banana bread for my hubs, taken five times the amount of time it normally takes to make lunch (how does it taste so much better after that?), enjoyed recreational reads, napped, gone to hot yoga, and watched an episode of my newest favorite HGTV find called Fixer Upper—which felt so good it couldn’t have been anything less than naughty. (P.S. if anyone can connect me to Joanna Gaines, please let me know. I’d fly to Waco tomorrow to have lunch with that woman.)
This, dear girls, is the unwinding of too many years of pure seriousness. In case any of us need a reframe here: seriousness is/can be good. Years of it at a time, not so much.
To contrast, my breaks before play entered my life with a big ol’ bag of tricks were only “productive” and included things like cleaning the house and ironing. Word to the wise, THAT IS NOT A BREAK!
3. End of day activities.
This is pretty simple and just like it sounds, except that instead of thinking, “Okay, after I’m done with work, I’ll walk the dog, make dinner, and clean for half an hour,” it’s become, “Okay, what sounds most exciting and relaxing for us after work?”
Sometimes it is taking the dog for a stretch, creating a delicious meal, and tidying up for the next day, but the energy of it has shifted so much in this new play-consciousness.
And sometimes it’s playing in the garden, going for a run together, or being with friends.
It’s just different. And more relaxed.
So I’m waist-deep in this new life experiment, but there’s one thing I already know for sure: the second you introduce an element in the range of life, it’s like your old stories about it start to fall away.
And that, perhaps, is the most beautiful part of it all.
Ahhh…celebration…and play. My next two topics. And personal initiations.
I have so much to celebrate lately, but will just highlight this: my birthday in Bali with my mastermind group, led by Nisha Moodley.
This month has been such a lesson in pausing to celebrate.
Before this trip across the world, I started asking myself during quiet moments (usually while driving) what I could celebrate about the day.
So that’s my invitation this month: find your personal celebration practice. Is it a huge gratitude list once a week or every night before you shut your eyes? How will you celebrate the every day goodness that is coming into your life?
After all, celebration is just another form of gratitude.
We’ve got to talk a minute about manifesting.
First, a quick primer.
What it is: arranging your thoughts and the details of your life to become and receive your highest potential.
Hint: it’s about creating the mental and physical space to do that.
What it is not: forcing, coercing, fighting, disobeying your intuition.
Don’t do those things. It just makes your life whack.
Here are a few methods to go about it. These could be done together, separately, blended. Whatever suits your style.
1. Sit down with your journal or notebook and just ask what your life holds for you—all of the blessings you could receive if you’d just ask.
You know the promise and truth: “Ask, and it shall be given you; seek, and ye shall find; knock, and it shall be opened unto you” (Mathew 7:7). Practice it this week.
You can have all that would be for your highest good, though not often without some awkward stretching. Think of it as a sort of metaphysical yoga: you’re twisting your body purposefully into poses that make it hard to find your breath, for the purpose of…finding your breath.
The first requirement is that we ask.
Also, ask the question of how you can best prepare to receive. You’ll probably get a download of inspired action steps. Better take ’em. (Consider, for example, this blog an inspired action step for me down my path to writing, speaking, coaching, and masterminding.)
Do this especially when you need big-picture clarity on your life and what you’re being called towards.
2. Make a list of all of the things you feel guided to ask for right this second.
I compile these often and call them my angel lists. Everything from income and clients to hairspray (when I’ve been too busy to make it to the store—which, funny story, made it on my angel list four years ago or so and I haven’t had to buy hairspray once since as everyone always seems to want to gift me expensive salon brands…) have made these lists.
One by one, I go in and check them off as being gratefully received.
Don’t worry about the how. Just trust that you have helpers anxiously waiting to make your life easier. But, again, you have to ask.
3. Get your life aligned.
You’ve got to clear the mental and physical clutter in order to manifest what you truly want. Negative thoughts? Banish them. Apartment full of things you no longer care for? Sell and donate it all. Trust me, you don’t want to get tied up in the “stuff” that is no longer serving you.
Notice a few commonalities here?
Ask questions about what you can do with and have in your life (bigger picture), as well as what you can have right now.
Write it down.
Ask how to get it. (Sometimes the how requires nothing on your end, so just trust that and let it be.)
Write it down.
Act thoughtfully on those prompts. Visualize your success.
Oh, and read this book. It’s short, sweet, and concise. While every word didn’t resonate, about 85% did, and I couldn’t recommend it more.
Above all, manifesting your ideal life should make it feel: calm, easy, full of spirit and joy, boundless. It will call to your heart faith, hope, empathy, and deep gratitude for all that you enjoy. Though doubts may come, you’ll be able to use those positive feelings to cloud out fear, worry, and concern.
You’ll feel held.